Hi, I’m Anne. Jesus is my Higher Power and I am in recovery for…

Hi, I’m Anne. Jesus is my Higher Power and I am in recovery for…

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Yeah, this is a heavy first blog post. I do realize that. But what I am sharing here is a big part of what’s real in my life right now and ties in so closely with my tagline in dealing with pursuing that healthy balance in all areas of life, I thought it was fitting.

You’ve probably heard that introduction that is common to 12-Step programs before. I never thought I'd be saying those words! If you were to pass by me somewhere, you probably would never guess I am in a recovery program. I came to learn not long after becoming a parent ... never say never. Life has a way of proving you wrong time and time again.

The truth is that we change so much as we grow and mature. And then there's this idea that you don't really know what you would do in any given situation until you are in it. Any number of factors can influence which direction you might take, how you might react, etc.

My story of recovery has nothing to do with being a parent. It also has nothing to do with addiction. And I really don't have to share it publicly, but I enjoy helping others and believe strongly in the benefits of learning from another person's experiences ... those who are willing anyway.

It takes some humility, a teachable heart and a desire to improve one's own life to step up and do it. I have many, many faults, but those three things aren't my issues. In fact, I really enjoy learning from others. I enjoy sharing in experiences together, even when it's not easy.

And let me tell you that recovery from anything is not an easy journey, a journey that began for me at the beginning of this year, 2015. I walked into a Celebrate Recovery program in my area not really sure what to expect. When I think of recovery programs, my mind always heads right into thoughts of drug addiction. I've never even tried drugs, never drank the first drop of alcohol or smoked a single cigarette.

Again, let me reiterate, I am by no means perfect, nor do I pretend to be. Those particular struggles just don't happen to be mine, though, I do have many others.

Celebrate Recovery is a Bible-based 12-step program, started by a member of Pastor Rick Warren's church, to help heal hurts, habits and hangups.

That pretty much covers a lot of things! And if we were to be honest, every single one of us has hurts. Maybe your hurts haven't reached a point of crisis or impacting your daily life, but mine had.

As a survivor of abuse – and in my case, emotional abuse, neglect and abandonment – years of unresolved issues, to which I had tried to seek resolution, began spiraling out of control when my sister left an abusive relationship. The response from “family” to her situation made clear some things that we had started keying in on.

There is a contemporary Christian song by 7eventh Time Down called, Just Say Jesus.

Some of the lyrics go like this:

Life gets tough and times get hard and it's hard to find the truth in all the lies. If you're tired of wondering why you're heart isn't healing and nothing feels like home cause you're lost and alone just screaming at the sky…

That’s how my life had begun to feel. I heard about Celebrate Recovery, read about it on the program website and decided to give it a try.

Not long before my first visit to the program, a man at my church shared with me that he had been through a very similar experience as mine. Do you know that it felt like the biggest relief having someone who understood the things I had been through and was feeling?

This is how I knew I needed to give Celebrate Recovery a try … because there are small support groups where you can share your experiences and learn from others as they share theirs. It has been an absolute godsend and has helped me begin on the path towards healing from this very painful past.

So I wanted to share my experience with Celebrate Recovery for those who may not have heard of it or for those who may have heard of it but for whatever reason have not given it a try yet. I want to encourage you to find a program in your area, give the leader a call and just chat for a few minutes to find out the details of that program like when they meet, if they have childcare, and if there is a small group for your particular struggle. And then, commit to going for 3-4 weeks.

The format of the one I attend is that we eat supper, have a brief worship and large group time and break out into small support groups.  After the groups, there is a gathering time for mingling with others.  I have not been able to participate in that last part because I need to pick up my children from the childcare area and home for bed.

You may find that it's not for you. But one thing you can be guaranteed of…. you will not know for sure until you give it a try. What if it could make the kind of difference in your life that helps you begin to heal or recover from whatever struggle you have and that sets your life onto a totally different trajectory than what you are on right now?

As the tagline of my blog says … I believe strongly in the importance of finding a healthy balance. My emotional wellbeing had gotten way out of balance, and I knew I needed to address that. If you feel that same way, do something about it. I know it is easier said than done, but if you will just take those first few steps, they may be the hardest. But it’s worth it for your health and wellbeing.

Do you know someone with a hurt, habit or hangup that they've been putting off addressing?

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28 responses

  1. I think people can really thrive when there are support groups like this. It helps to talk to other people who understand.

  2. I still have a lot of hangups from things that have happened in the past – I am trying my best to get over them one at a time.
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    • I think that is definitely the way to do it, Sarah, one at a time. It can be easy to get overwhelmed and it can also seem like it is taking forever, but IMHO it’s best to focus on one thing at once. I wish you the best in your recovery journey … :)

  3. Hi Anne, wonderful post. Sounds like you found a great program to help you move through your past.
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  4. I know several people, family, with hangups that they don’t know they have but everyone else does.

  5. Pam

    A local church in my area does Celebrate Recovery programs. I have heard such great things about them and the work they are doing.

    • I have been amazed and so blessed, Pam. I am glad to hear that other programs in other areas are doing the same great job as the one with which I am involved. It makes me happy to know that people are finding healing!

  6. Having support from others,even if they’re just there to listen helps a lot. I’m glad you’ve found some great people to work with.
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  7. I think with any program like this, sticking with it is key. I know many people who have done recovery programs and thrived until they stopped going. Having continuous support makes all the difference in recovery.
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    • I agree, Theresa. Recovery is not easy work, but if you can get through the hard parts, and as you say, I agree wholeheartedly that support makes a difference, it will be worth it when you reach a point of better health and peace in your life.

  8. Pam

    Support groups are so important for healing and recovery and it sounds like you have found the one that is a good fit for you. I will keep this info and organization in mind if ever in need or if I come across anyone that might benefit from it.

    • Thank you, Pam. That’s awesome … I do hope that this information will be helpful to someone in your life if ever needed. :)

  9. This is a great post. I am glad you found somewhere that is helpful for you. It is important to have support around you.

  10. It’s great that you found a good support group. Wishing you only good luck and strength.
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  11. I think these groups are very effective. It’s great to have a support system that really knows your struggles.
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  12. I think we all have hangups to some point. Many are harmful. I like to eat, that is mine.

  13. What a great post! It’s important to have support groups and people who understand around. We all have issues and hang ups so it’s understandable great honest post!
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  14. Support groups are so important. When you are surrounded by others that understand what you are going through, you are able to move forward and heal.
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  15. I think support groups are great for so many things. Thank you for sharing your story.

  16. I am glad you found support. It is important to have support in those tough moments
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  17. Finding a healthy balance is so important in our lives. I do agree we never really know what we will do in a particular situation, until we face it in real & the decisions we take depends on how we react right away. Support groups are really important for any recovery process today in the life we all live in.

  18. This is so important.. as there are things like psychological things that could affects us whether it be good or bad – a support group always matters. It keeps one going!
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  19. Support is so important. So glad you got the help you needed.

  20. Thanks for sharing- I’m sure it wasn’t easy since this kind of thing isn’t talked about as much as it should be. Community and accountability is so important for life in general and an absolute must for dealing with hard things like this. As a foster parent, I’m familiar with the consequences of that kind of abuse and I’m so sorry you are going through it. Keeping you in my prayers and I am so glad you have found such awesome support! I’ve heard great things about the program :)
    -Sara
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    • Thank you, Sara. I appreciate your thoughts and prayers so much! Thank you for being a foster parent …. I had amazing foster parents and stay in touch with them today!!

  21. Although Im not familiar with celebrate recovery, it sounds biblical based. I spent 14 years in 4 rehabs and countless aa and na meetings and they didnt help. But doing two things different changed my heart. We can’t change our own heart. Prayer and bible reading did change me. Ive been clean 5 yrs as of July 1 this year. I am a different man today! Thanks.

    • It absolutely is, Fred! And you are right … those things do change us. Celebrate Recovery, I believe, God is using to help show people “how” to develop a strong foundation and relationship with Christ in overcoming the hurts, habits and hang-ups and learning to depend upon him moment by moment, day by day. Thank you so much for sharing your story … I am so happy for your 5 years!!

      I would encourage you to check out a CR meeting if you are interested in your story and experience helping others. There are always needs for leadership and service and it helps those who are new to the meetings to have people who’ve overcome there to help guide them and encourage them.

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