My 4-year-old daughter already has her own firm ideas about many things, including what she wants to wear on any given day. I have no clue where she gets this from!
Truthfully, yes, I'm generally pretty opinionated. I also was more of a perfectionist before I had children. My husband disagrees, but ... well, I guess we agree to disagree on that one.
Today we experienced a perfect example in our home of the wise parenting advice of, "Choose your battles." As my pre-Mama self, I wouldn't have been so lax about allowing my child to leave home dressed in very casual shorts and dress shoes. But thankfully, I have come to the determination that in some situations, learning to choose your battles really is the better way to go.
Being a perfectionist can be rooted in some deeper issues, in my opinion. I have come to realize that perfectionism, at least at its extreme levels, is probably not an indication of striking that healthy balance.
As a parent, I began to see that, in fact, there are just some situations that are not worth "battling" over. When it boils down to it, there are some core values and issues that are absolutely no-compromise in raising my children. But many things don't fall into that category.
Now, admittedly, today we were heading out to the library. Had our destination been different, a place to which we normally dress nicer, the approach would have been somewhat different. So choosing battles does not mean that my daughter always, every day, no matter where we are going wears whatever she sets in her little mind to wear.
But for me, going to the library did not necessitate a battle about attire. It was not worth it to me to enter into a conflict over this.
If you as a parent were to feel differently, hey, that's okay. I'm not here to judge you about how you parent, and as long as my children are healthy I hope you take that same approach in reading this today!
As mamas, we also may need to heed the advice of, "Choose your battles," in our own discussions about parenting. But more on that another day ... !
What is a recent "Mama Moment" experience in your home of choosing your battles with your little ones? Or are you completely against this parenting philosophy, and why?
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